When she was just a girl
She expected the world
But it flew away from her reach
So she ran away in her sleep
Dreamed of a paradise, every time she closed her eyes
Life goes on
It gets so heavy
So lying underneath those stormy skies
She said, I know the sun must set to rise...
And this could be paradise.
A song dedicated to the queen of my heart :- Tum ho toh gaata hai dil tum nahi toh geet kahan , tum ho toh hai sab haasil , tum nahi to kya hai yahaan ,tum ho toh hai sapno ke jaise haseenek samaa...Jo tum hot toh yeh lagta hai ki mil gayi har khushi jo tumna ho yeh lagta hai ki har khushi me hai kamii..tumko hai maangti yehh Zindagii...
Identifying what’s wrong with a situation—including the attitude and actions of the people involved—is absolutely necessary in our lives. But if we’re too quick, we risk misjudging and harming those people. I’ve certainly done it. I’ve also been on the receiving end.
If we’re quick to judge, we’re upping the odds that we’ll misdiagnose and seriously 'hurt someone'.
How often do we judge before we have all the facts? I see it all the time. Something hits us the wrong way, and we jump to criticize.
But do we know all the relevant details? Even more problematic, do we know the motivations behind what’s happened?
Judging on incomplete information is counterproductive—and sometimes worse.
Before we make a move, we should make certain we have enough information. If circumstances force us to move without all the details, we should be humble, open to correction, and ready to change our opinion.
We Often Project Our Own Issues
We all have hangups, faults, and pet peeves. And because we’re so familiar with our own issues, we tend to notice them everywhere we turn, even—especially—in others.
The more we have it ourselves, the more we dislike it in others. And it’s not just pride. Most failings are like that.
When we don’t have the full story, we often fill in the blanks with our own issues. It’s unconscious, but suddenly we’ve assigned motives and condemned someone when we are really just imagining things.
We Usually Regret It Later
If we realize our misdiagnosis, regret comes next.
By jumping the gun, we might have harmed relationships that will now have to be mended. Thankfully, there’s a simple process for making things right when we blow it. But we can’t be cavalier. Apologies are like car airbags—good to have but best if never needed.
Being kind to yourself in everyday life is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
Life will become lighter and your relationships will most likely improve.
You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up.
1. Invest in yourself.
Spend 15-30 minutes in the morning or evening with reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself and the world or that helps you to live a better life.
Then, if possible, take one small action on what you have learned.
2. Find the truth and exception when an inner critic or outer critic attacks.
Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you. People around you may attack you or try to bring you down to serve one of their own needs.
If you or someone else does this, ask yourself this question:
What is the exception to this though?
This is very effective to change your train of thoughts, to find the truth and to not get down on yourself.
For example, if you or someone says that you are not doing a good job in school then you can ask the question and find answers that tell you that isn’t really true. If you question the attack and look for the exception you may for instance see that you are actually doing a good job in most of your courses, but may be a bit unfocused and lazy in math and geography.
That is a more nuanced truth that helps you rather than just brings you down.
3. Unstress tonight.
Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or work out. Or talk to someone about something that is on your mind and let it all out.
Set aside 30 minutes or more and be kind to your body and mind by letting the tensions and stress out.
4. Take just 2 minutes in the morning or evening to appreciate yourself.
Create a kinder and more balanced self-image by making it a quick and daily habit to appreciate yourself.
Here’s what you do:
Sit down with a journal on your smart phone, computer or in paper form. Ask yourself:
What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself?
It could be that you are a good listener or are doing well with your hobby right now. Or that you have a love for animals, people or music.
It doesn’t have to be big things either. Maybe just that you flossed or brushed your teeth this morning. The important thing is to appreciate yourself both for the little things and the things you may take for granted and not just for reaching a big milestone once in while.
5. Mediocre day? Take one small step forward towards something positive.
If your day feels mediocre or just sort of depressing then take one small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day and week.
Book or research a trip you want to take.Setup a dinner or a cup of coffee with a good friend.Look into how you can grow in your career to get new and exciting stuff to do.Try a new hobby.
6. Be kinder towards others.
The way you think about and treat others is often the way you think about and treat yourself. So choose to be kinder towards others to, over time, become kinder and more understanding towards yourself too.
For example:
Let someone into your lane while driving.Encourage a friend or a family member when they are uncertain or unmotivated.Just be there and listen as you let someone vent.
7. If you stumble, be your own best friend.
Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and supportive friend to yourself instead.
Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation?
And then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would.
And remember to ask yourself what you can learn from your stumble and if there is an opportunity in this situation. Then take that new knowledge you gain and move forward once again.
8. Take a laugh-break.
Take 5-10 minutes in the middle of your day or if that is not possible then use your morning or evening. Use your smart phone, portable media player, computer or TV and watch a funny clip or a half an episode of a sitcom, read a funny book or comic or listen to a podcast you know makes you laugh.
I have been using this one for over a decade, even before I got seriously interested in personal development. I find it to be one of the most effective things I can do to recharge my energy and optimism and to release inner tensions.
9. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change.
Don’t get stuck in thought loops that just go round and round about what you could have done or what went wrong.
Think about what you really want in the rest of your life instead.
Better health?A great relationship?New challenges in your career?
Now, what are a few small steps you can take towards that goal?
Take one of those steps today. Then another tomorrow.
10. Simply remind yourself of why is smart to be kind to yourself.
By knowing the reasons why it is smart to be kinder to yourself it, in my experience, becomes easier and easier to be kind to yourself and to take the time for it every day.
By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness, more positive relationships with yourself and other people it becomes easier to stay kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs.
When you have failed it is very easy to start thinking that you will always keep failing in this area of your life. It is easy to start thinking that you are indeed a failure.
Don’t fall for such a destructive self-fulfilling prophecy.
Instead, remind yourself that just because you failed today or yesterday doesn’t mean that you will fail the next time.
The truth is that this won’t last for the rest of your life if you keep taking action and it does not label you as some kind of failure.
Seeing what is negative as a temporary thing instead of something permanent is an essential key to an optimistic attitude and to living a life of fully exploring your own potential.
Imagination reaches out repeatedly trying to achieve some higher level of understanding, untill suddenly I find myself momentarily before a new corner of beauty and true majesty..
That is my REWARD..
#VictoryISblissful
soumya: U kindda prove it that whtevr u hav u deserve it.. Its no fluke. I felt lyk screaming at evry sentence u spoke today n ya Vo end wali Hindi kavita .. Its awsm n d way u said it... I luv u for that t.. ��������
soumya: I felt so so sooooo proud of u T, u were amazing... The way u spoke n handled evrythyn Ws unbelievable yaar.. And trust me this is no exaggeration
"Manzil mil hee jayegi ek din, issi hausle se chalne ka irada kiya..Na hare hain na harenge kabhi.. kisi aur se nahi khud se ye wada kiya hai..!"
Awww!!! T, u knw I ws a witness to the cheer that d audience ws having for u... The moment ws of pride, and I couldn't stop myself frm screaming hard at evry word u spoke... I rembr r journey frm FE to yesterday and saw u grow in all so positive way!! I m proud to hav u as my bestee yaar.. ���� luv u always T.. Keep shining brighter, sky is the limit!!
Let's make a deal
Let's give it a thought
What are you doing, why are you doing.. Where is taking you?
Is that what you really want from your life
Is that what you wanted to do in life
Or you are doing it because you had to do something
Or you are just doing it for the sake of doin it
Or you are doing it to show the world that you can do it
Let's give a thought, Let's make it a bit simpler
Let's understand ourselves better
Let's relax a bit, Let's chill a bit
Let's make a deal
Let's give it a thought
